Attraction is THE KEY for a woman to be interested in you. It is a feeling they get, and as we all know, women are all about feeling, and less about thinking. You might not believe it, but from experience, I know that women can do/say/.. anything, because of a feeling they have. There's no explanation but a feeling. To us, men, it might seem illogical, unexplainable, and when you ask for an explanation, you won't get any. To a woman, a feeling can be a very legit reason they can trust and act upon. This is one of the most influential differences between men and women when it comes to relationships.
Anyways, before continuing, I should give you a glimpse on the 3 phase model. Meeting and talking to women happens in 3 phases:
1. Attraction
2. Comfort
3. Seduction
The first phase indeed is attraction. The attraction phase happens from the moment a girl notices you, untill some minutes in the conversation. Some moments have higher signification than others: the first time they see you and how you start talking to her (notice the how, not the words) are more key than the period in between. However, during this period, you should still maintain radiating your high value.
Before you can demonstrate high value (DHV), a girl has to notice you first. So how do you make sure everyone sees you? The male peacock has a nice big tail with colors which it shows of to impress the females. That is why men too need an item to make them stand out. This is called the peacock theory. In Belgium it's not common to wear or bring items which are EXTRAordinary. But you can wear a certain necklace, watch, T-shirt, do something with your hair, ... You'll have to find an item that suits you, that identifies you, that draws attention. However, make sure it doesn't define you too much, you should be able to remove it if necessary, and it doesn't always have to be the same item. Switch from time to time and check which generates the most attention. It can be very hard to find a good peacocking item, search the web and comment below if you find a good, 'normal' one! Next to peacocking, the item will also give the girl a chance to make a comment about you: 'nice watch/necklace/...'. This is an indicator of interest (IOI) which you'll read more about later on. There's also plenty other options to get noticed: if you enter a cafe/.. with a group of fine women, you will be seen too. This however will only be possible once you've mastered some of the PUA theory. There's also other options like making a lot of noise and so on, but the latter might not be high value but rather be experienced as irritating. If you think of other ways to be noticed, feel free to comment.
So part 1, the noticing, is covered. The girls now SEE you. You might wear something which stands out, you might not. So now that you are seen, you should make sure the girls like what they see. They don't have to think they like it, they have to FEEL it. After all, attraction is a feeling. Think of a girl entering a premise where you're at, what type of girl would you like coming in? First thing that comes into my mind, is that she has a certain level of hygiene. She has to be clean, the same is for you. She has to have a certain look (clothing etc) which you like. This doesn't mean you should change your clothing/style, but if you don't have a specific style or (and probably this is true) if your mom still chooses and buys your clothes, watch the most popular guys and try matching their style - if you don't dislike it. Stay true to yourself (if you have found out already who you are), or betray yourself and thus betray your next relationship. So hygiene and look are two things that certainly matter. Next to that, there's also a social value you probably didn't think of. Wouldn't you like a girl coming in smiling or laughing, having fun with her friends, .. more than a girl that enters face down, 'normal face', 'scanning who's in the place'? This is exactly the same way you should enter and should be seen the first time. Having fun will always be high value, and you will be more likeable. Now those tips were on entering a premise only, where girls on the lookout will be looking for anyways (been there done that, experienced it!).
Now, once you're in the building, how should you behave? You need to show off a good body language. Body language is such an important topic, that I will dedicate a whole post on the subject. I'll insert a link here later on.
So now, when you've entered and behaved the correct way, you'll notice some women are attracted to you. But how do you notice? Women will, consciously and unconsciously, start giving you Indicators of Interest (IOI's). When you start seeing IOI's, you know you've mastered attraction. IOI's are women making eye contact (and mostly looking down right after), initiating conversation, repeatedly standing close to you, playing with their hair, scratching the top of their hand, turning their hips and shoulders to you while in conversation, ... (use google) Know any more IOI's? Feel free to comment!
Both of these steps are all executed before you even started talking to the girls. In the following posts, I'll tell you more about body language and opening.
Extra:
There's one more aspect in building attraction, for which you have to rely on others. The people who you are with, are part of your value. If you are around 10 guys, make sure you are the leader of the group. If you are not, someone else will have higher value than you, and you'll be lost forever. A better thing to do however, is to be with plenty of (hot) girls. Being with girls gives you the advantage of preselection. I think all of you know that a guy/girl who is in a relationship, automatically becomes much more attractive (do you know the feeling?). This is because of preselection. Preselection means that someone is already selected as being a (potential) partner by someone of the other gender. People will automatically feel and think that, since s/he is / could be in a relationship, s/he is a good partner and a good mate, and has already been approved.
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